Calling out all my single ladies! Here’s a brief how-to guide (based off of personal experiences), on the yes and nos to what to do on your first date.
Let’s face it when it comes to texting a guy/girl (hey, we are in the 21st century now), you met off of social media, it should be second nature in feeling comfortable behind your whatever I-phone you have.
(If you’re not so confident, maybe we should discuss ‘texting a hottie 101’)
Behind your phone, they can’t see how you look or can even see you put your sentences together without auto-correct. This is probably why “cat-fishing” is such a real thing.
But no, we’re not going to go into a whole discussion on how fucked up “catfishing” is, I’m here to give you the best first date tips that I got. Based off of my years of dating (and I’m using the word ‘years’ very slightly), and second-hand experiences with my friends.
Tip 1: Leave Your Insecurities At Home!
This is a very tricky topic because as a female we are so used to talking about what’s wrong with us so nonchalantly.
With an, “omg, I look so gross right now” or “wow, I look so fat”. I say this with the most care in my heart, STOP THAT SHIT!
He/She is already going on a date with you, so assuming the obvious there must be some type of attraction there already, just be you who cares.
(unless you’re on a blind date and your friend completely forgot to mention his shitty attitude. Get out of there!)
Tip 2: Pick a Casual Spot
The date spot you pick pretty much sets the mood for the rest of the time you’ll have together with that person.
A bar, a restaurant, a bar-cade.. somewhere where you both are surrounded by people you don’t know, so you’ll feel more comfortable talking to the person you’re with. Boom easy peasy.
***p.s for the love of God, don’t go to the movies on a first date. Nothing is more uncomfortable than sitting next to someone you’re into, have their eyes on something that isn’t you!
Tip 3: Don’t Bring Your Homie
I completely understand the nervous feeling of being on a date with someone for the first time so you feeling bringing your friend along will make you feel more comfortable…
But are you going to start a three-way relationship with your best friend in it? Because HELLOOOO that’s what it seems like!
You’re on a date with someone that you’re feeling (hopefully), so simply keep it just between you two. Get to know each other.
If he seems like a serial killer, have your mom and 911 on speed dial.
Tip 4: Have Fun
Even though I am giving tips on the dos and don’ts of a first date, at the end of the day it is YOU going on this date. Enjoy yourself!
Don’t feel the need to overthink certain decisions that you want to do.
You wanna get that Jameson and Ginger ale (yummy), drink that shit. If you want to sing out loud to a song at the bar, sing it. WHO CARES!
At the end of the day, if the person you’re on a date with doesn’t seem interested, fuck them (as in forget them lol) and move on, it’s ONLY your first of many dates in your life so why to worry about a person that doesn’t like you for you.
You’ll Do Amazing Sweetie!
I hope you all enjoy this first “dating/relationship” advice post, and hopefully, I can do more in the future.
If you have any memorable first date experiences or your own opinions on the dos & don’ts on a first date, feel free to comment below!